On a roll

I realize this is post #3 tonight. I just was thinking......
Recently, I have had a few people bring up the subject of others being judgemental. This is a disturbing thing to me. First off, being a Christian, we should always avoid judging others, lest we be judged.
Secondly, I have always found that just when you start noticing the splinter sticking out of someone else's eye, a telephone pole sometimes starts jutting out of your own eye!
For example: When I worked in the ER in podunk town, USA, I worked with ER nurses that would make fun of people that would come in for migraines or panic attacks. They would say, "so what? Why are they coming to us for a stupid panic attack?" I used to tell them.....You NEVER know when something could happen in your own life that pushes you over the edge and you start having anxiety or depression. They just scoffed. But truly, one day everything could just be rocking along normally and out of nowhere it can strike. Should we sit at home under the covers and expect it to happen to us? Absolutely not. But what if something traumatic happens to someone you love? What if a near collision in a car petrifies you to the point that you don't want to ride in a car? What if your child dies and it sends you into a deep depression? And migraine headaches? WHEW! If you have ever had a true migraine, you know how sick those can make you. They can make you wish you were dead! Of course, some drug seekers would come in using that excuse. But who am I to say that they aren't hurting? But you can tell (not always) who really feels sick and who is just putting on. People that are really sick, aren't playing, talking on the phone, eating and drinking soft drinks!
But Im not jsut talking about judging others mental well being. Im talking about judging others lifestyles. On more than one occasion, Ive heard of "Christian" people making really unsupportive comments to family members of people with "issues." Issues meaning anything from: divorce, drug addiction, legal issues, custody battles, joblessness and any other unfortunate circumstance that many people are having to face right now.
I guarantee you that these family members, spouses and children that have had to hear rude comments feel very hurt and unsupported. I think that sometimes its best to go by what your grandma and mama probably taught you, "If you dont have anything good to say, then say nothing at all!" Actions and words can be so painful. And the mere fact that these family members (and the like) are having to deal with the bad choices or bad circumstances that their loved one has found (or placed) themselves in is certainly hard enough.
So if you know that someone is going through a trying time right now, please dont focus on their short comings or remind them of what wrong their sister/brother has done...please try to lift them up. Pray for them and with them. Hug them. Find out if they NEED something or if there is anything you can do. Dont sit back and judge them or the ones they love. Gods grace and mercy is good enough for all sinners....not just the ones that we think are worthy.